Saturday, June 18, 2011


Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.


Saturday, April 23, 2011

Why Indian Students are hated by the Americans ?

It was the first day of a school in USA and a new Indian student named Chandrasekhar Subramanian entered the fourth grade.

The teacher said, "Let's begin by reviewing some American History. Who said 'Give me Liberty , or give me Death'?"

She saw a sea of blank faces, except for Chandrasekhar, who had his hand up:?'Patrick Henry, 1775'he said.

'Very good! Who said 'Government of the People, by the People, for the People, shall not perish from the Earth?''

Again, no response except from Chandrasekhar. 'Abraham Lincoln , 1863' said Chandrasekhar.

The teacher snapped at the class, 'Class, you should be ashamed. Chandrasekhar, who is new to our country, knows more about our history than you do.'

She heard a loud whisper: 'F ___ the Indians,' 'Who said that?' she demanded. Chandrasekhar put his hand up. 'General Custer, 1862.'

At that point, a student in the back said, 'I'm gonna puke.'

The teacher glares around and asks 'All right! Now, who said that?' Again, Chandrasekhar says, 'George Bush to the Japanese Prime Minister, 1991.'

Now furious, another student yells, 'Oh yeah? Suck this!'

Chandrasekhar jumps out of his chair waving his hand and shouts to the teacher, 'Bill Clinton, to Monica Lewinsky,1997'

Now with almost mob hysteria someone said 'You little shit. If you say anything else, I'll kill you.' Chandrasekhar frantically yells at the top of his voice, 'Michael Jackson to the child witnesses testifying against him, 2004.'

The teacher fainted. And as the class gathered around the teacher on the floor, someone said, 'Oh shit, we're screwed!' And Chandrasekhar said quietly, 'I think it was Lehmann Brothers, November 4th, 2008'.

My Creation

Amid all loneliness and silence that surrounds
Its you that I feel around
For though you are not with me today
your love haunts me all along.

This day long loneliness, though killing
has turned for me into an eternal bliss
For its only for those moments
That I can silently feel your presence that I so dearly miss.

These feelings might seem new to you
but for me these have become a life
This loneliness created by your void
has turned me into an heartless droid.

I loved you since the day we met
and all I got in return was betrayal
You might have thought it as a lie
but this love, I promise would never die.

I don’t complain of this loneliness
for this is the only gift of you that I have
But still love! Is thy heart so tough
that you defy all feelings.

Don’t you remember that once you too used to love me
or the promises we had made
Don’t you yearn for the time we spent together
or the castles we made.

Were those castles so weak to fall so suddenly
or our love, so profound it used to seem, was so shady
I accept there were mistakes
but couldn’t they have been repented.

I know you too long for me
That you also want us back again
So love! Why you still keep a rough heart
while both our souls live a life in pain.

Come forward and hold my hand
and again be mine
Lets get back together again
and fill our lives with a new sunshine.

P.S.- I couldn’t think of some apt title for this poem, So if you could suggest some, I would be grateful to you.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010


Now when I m leaving you
I feel so weirdly strange
Speculating what would happen
And how my life would change.

These thoughts might seem new to you
but for me they have become a trend
Coz since I have known you
you were always more than jus a friend

Many eras have passed since we last met
yet your memories seem to be so fresh
Even distant u seem so close
that I feel as if u were engraved in my flesh.

I remember the time we spent together
the time we spent chatting beside the window
Is the way I held u that would I miss
or is it the warmth of ur shadow

We don't realise how people miss each other
unless we ourselves miss someone so dear
Today when I see people with their close ones
I only know how much I wish u were here

I know people will think I have gone nuts
coz these feelings are not explainable by logic
But I know these feelings can bring u back
coz these are no less than magic

When I look at the birds in the sky
you don't know how much I feel to cry
Oh! how much I long to be with you
and like free birds we would fly.

A sense of nostalgia takes over me
O how much I wish to hug you
Now I don't think there is ne point guessing the last line
Which is surely 'I MISS YOU'.


Sunday, December 5, 2010


Dear Dr K, I am a concerned mother, and like every concerned mother, I want my son to study in IIT after he graduates from school. He is seven-year-old and in class second now. What is ideally the earliest age to enrol him in IIT-JEE coaching classes?
 — Laliita Jeevan

 Dear Laliita,
 I am afraid that it might already be too late for your child. By the class second, most kids who are serious about getting into one of the IITs have already had three to four years of solid JEE coaching. With the recent introduction of pre-natal JEE coaching clinics, it has become possible for kids to prepare for the JEE before they are even born. Still, if your child is to have any hope at all of getting into one of the IITs, it is absolutely essential that you begin his JEE coaching immediately. You must enrol him in a coaching institute that makes use of the time when he usually plays, sleeps, or undertakes any other pointless activity. If he wishes to catch up with those who have already begun their coaching, he will have to forego his sleep for the next 10 years or more. There are some critics of such intensive coaching programmes, who believe that such packed schedules will rob a child of his or her childhood, and induce unnecessary and unhealthy stress in him or her. This argument is, of course, rubbish. Experts agree that the notion of having a ‘childhood’ is overrated, and this so-called ‘childhood’ will only be detrimental to the child’s chances at being admitted to an IIT. On the issue of stress, no one has said it better than famed JEE Coach Burgeon N Bess. This is a healthy routine for any child who has begun coaching early enough: “Nowadays people are talking about stress. I am not referring to force per unit area. I am referring more to mental and physical strain. I am not referring to ratio of change in dimensions to original dimensions. People think that children are facing too much stress nowadays. They obviously cannot think very well because they are wrong. Where is the stress in a child's life? All he or she does is get up early in the morning, go to tuition, come back, go to school, come back, go to tuition, go to JEE Class, go home, do homework for two hours, then study for five hours, and then maybe catch a little snooze. Is this a stressful routine? I think not. There is ample time in this schedule for relaxation. This time should be used for hard work and studies. Children should be initiated early into the coffee habit so that they are able to stay awake until late at night. Weekends is for recreational activities such as casual differentiation and integration, and preparation for AIEEE. These habits will ensure a child's stress-free life.” Only if your child gets into an IIT will his life be of any worth. If he is unable or unwilling to do so, you have failed as a parent. After all, all the world needs is more engineers (who give up engineering to do MBAs). Your child should pursue subjects like the pure sciences, or art, or music, only if your child is interested in pursuing failure. Everyone else simply has to enter IIT, or die trying.
Wishing you luck,
Yours questionably, 
Dr K

Yearning to meet you

Years have passed since we last met
Making those promises we hoped would be kept
Of those happy times we spent together
Those ecstatic memories which will remain forever.

That lip talking and chit-passing during classes
Bunking classes to get away from masses
Watching movies was never so much fun
That hanging out in the winter sun.

O! how shall I tell you how much I miss those times
Those memories which get buried away as life hums its chimes
O! how shall I tell you how much I yearn to meet you
Yearning for those times when it would be just me and you.

I accept there had been mistakes
Mistakes which tore us apart
But you would too agree on the amount of energy it takes
To rip two loving souls to their very last.

I find lack of words in telling how much I miss you
Or expressing the limits to which I yearn to meet you
O love! Forget thy mistakes and forgive mine
And hope we are able to vanish this deep ravine.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

The Poem I Wrote For Cresendo

Title : When I entered my room all I saw was red

The incident i describe took place some years back

When the government administration had begun to slack

Happiness, love and brotherhood were lost somewhere

Just the news of riots and murders were everywhere

To discuss the remedies of these

People were invited to a five star hotel cheeze

We discussed many petty issues during the meet

While we were being served snacks, coke and meat

There the clocks ticked faster than we had ever dreamt

Still we couldn't come to a decision that really meant

Yearning for freedom from that surrounding gloom

I left the discussion and walked to a room

All i saw there was red

Be it the floor or the bedThe walls were painted bloody red

All this gave me an awkward feeling that someone had bled

To ease my mind I walked across the room

And as I did so I felt getting sucked in some gloom

As such thoughts continued to creep

I didn't realise when I was hunted down by sleep

In that sleep i had a dream

Which came with a faint gleam

In it a dwarf came

Horlicks was his name

He made me realise

The pain of the sufferers and empathise

But Oh! suddenly the dwarf disappeared

As he went i got scared

For he was followed by a man in cloak

So scary was he that my dream broke

Waking up from my dream

I felt like crying out in a scream

That the red around me signified my bleeding conscience

Which I had left somewhere in my journey to find out the mysteries of science

This incident left me unbiased

On my longing to help the sufferers of riots

That's all I want to say

To all my friends who love to live and play

I ask you to be selfless, loving and kind

And work for the betterment of mankind

Stand up to remove the evils that lead to riots and discrimination

For in that way you will be contributing for the development of your nation

Saturday, September 4, 2010

If Life Didn't SUCK, U'd Fall Off

This is an image of something my 'bapu' wrote on the walls of his ex- room. Sounds nice na......:)
Following is my interpretation of this qoute--
Living a 'cool' life is like living in a situation of a war between various desires, conflicts of life, dreams, wants and more importantly realities. In my view, it is this war- like situation which gives a colour to life. The happiness when u achieve ur dreams can't be possibly described in words. And also not to forget, the sorrow or the pain u feel when u lose, this pain makes u stronger, the failure which gives u the spirit to work harder in order to achieve ur dreams. These all are necessary for a healthy and a happy life.

Now think of a life devoid of these. A life without struggles and the so-called the fear of failure. Even the dream of living such a life is highly tempting, atleast for me it is so. A time in which u won't have to do anything, jus keep enjoying the live and its luxuries. But a life of this kind has many problems too. Here u won't get the oppurtunities to gain those experiences which u would have otherwise gained. But will be needing all those experiences in that 'heavenly' live. Most of us would say a no to this. As a matter of fact, u don't need them for all practical purposes. But wait, jus think of such a kind of life again. Won't such a life be boring. I mean you might enjoy such a life for sometime but as time would pass, u will feel a monotonicity in such a life, nothing new, jus what happens everyday will repeat itself. U will feel as if u are a bird caught in a cage. Finally after sometime u'd fall off, meaning u will get addicted to such a life with no zeal or enthu to develop, no hopes, no dreams nothing.

Bascially it is the 'sucking' the life does which keeps the zeal of further development enlighted in u. And it is this zeal which makes life worth living. So it is better that life sucks or u'd fallen off.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Aditya Birla Scholarship Essay 2

Decisions are very crucial in one’s life. They can make or mar your future and have a deep impact on your life and on the lives of those surrounding you. So it is necessary that we have strong and well resolved decision making capability.

There have been uncountable instances in my life in which my determined decision making quality has proved to be an asset for me. I am a kind of person who rarely changes his decision once it has been made. But yes, before taking any decision, I fully consider the pros and cons of the situations and the
various options I have. I also weigh the doubts and suggestions of others before coming to a decision. This thoughtful decision making saves the time which people generally spend on reconsidering their decisions. I usually use this time in implementing my decision or doing some other creative work.

Thinking about instances where my thoughtful and firm decisions have proved themselves the best, the first instance which comes to my mind is a quite recent one. It was regarding the selection of branch in IIT. Bombay and Delhi have metro culture. The charm of the city and the feeling that a metro city would give you more exposure in the various walks of life attracts students to go to IIT Powai or IIT Delhi. I was also asked by my parents to fill up Bombay and Delhi as my first choices. But I was quite resolute to come to IIT Kanpur due to better quality of academics and research facilities it provides. They accepted my choice half‐heartedly. But when they came to Kanpur and themselves the saw structure and quality of education here, they felt that I had taken the right decision. From my side too, I feel the same. In IIT
Kanpur, the academics and research facilities are par excellence. Apart from academics there are many hobby clubs where students can learn and practice their hobbies. There are student bodies here which take assist the administration in taking many important decisions. This helps in the development of leadership qualities in them and gives them experience of various situations in life.

I had to make one more similar kind of decision about two years back when I was in the eleventh standard. I had to choose a subject in which I would continue my studies. Due to my passion in science, I chose the science stream. Now I had the choice of biology or mathematics. Although my parents had
given me full freedom of choice but there were many people who were expecting, or rather advising, me to take biology. They would say your parents are in the medical field, so you would surely do better in biology. This all continued even after I had opted for maths due to my fervor for programming and maths. But when the results were declared for JEE and other exams like KVPY, people finally realized that my decision was not wrong.

There are many more instances where this quality has helped me. Apart from the help it gives, this quality also increases my confidence when my decision goes correct. Also it makes me open to all kinds of situations I may face in future. It gives me a strong standing in situations where a quick decision is
needed. Decision making quality is an important one for a leader as it puts him in a strong position. So I think this consideration qualifies me to be a distinguished ‘Aditya Birla Scholar’.